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Rule #42: Girls just wanna have fun.


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Girls just wanna have fun. People just wanna have fun, even mommas in their 30’s. This past year, I’ve done a lot of soul searching. You may call it a midlife crisis. Brene Brown would call it a midlife unraveling. But I call it a midlife awakening. As I slowly creep toward 40 (I still

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Rule #35: Everyone in the adoption triad should be able to express the love, heartache, and difficulty that is adoption.


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I’m going to say something that may be controversial these days: Feelings and experiences from everyone in the adoption triad matter. Adoptee voices should not be silenced. Birth family voices should not be silenced. And adoptive parents should not be silenced. Everyone in the triad should be able to express the love, heartache, and difficulty

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Rule #32: Love What Matters


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This wild political season has put transracial adoption in the news thanks to Amy Coney Barrett’s confirmation hearings. No, this isn’t a post on what I think of Amy Coney Barrett. Yes, this is a post on being a white mother to black children. As a white mother to black children, the world often views

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Rule #21: Be kinder than you have to be.


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“Be kinder than you have to be.” It’s such a simple but impactful idea, to be kinder than you have to be. In reality, we don’t have to be kind at all. We can choose to be unkind. And we can choose to be kind. Our choices and acts of kindness (or unkindness) are more

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Adoption Story

Rule #20: Adoption is hard.


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Did you know that November is National Adoption Awareness Month? Neither did I. Does it make me a bad mother for not knowing this until a few days ago? Maybe. Or maybe it just means that there are so many national awareness months to celebrate, that I can’t possibly keep track of them all. But

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